"When writing the story of your life, do not let others hold the pen." - tumblr

Not directing this to anyone in particular, but seriously, when was everything as simple as 'doing this and not that means you lack the guts'??

seriously?

damn all this pieces of thoughts whirling around in the wind, with strings hard to attach, and black and white are just insufficient to paint them.

why would doing this indicate that I'm one who do not have the guts in life?! Seriously. If I had no guts at all, why would I even choose to apply for it, and why even struggle till yesterday? We are all older to know that whatever decision it is that we make now, it is never just A and B. If I had not the guts why would I have even cared to study ELL, and getting a C as that? Is that not enough evidence already that whatever we do in life, we take risks and even the safest choices can turn your whole world Topsy Turvy?

But the thing that really left me in flames, was the fact that people really do in general stereotype and superficially determine your character with the choices you choose. Why not look deeper, and try to understand the numerous factors considered? Sometimes I really do feel that we are rather blinded by this "21st century skills" thing. Not that it's bad, but I mean blinded in the sense that we are now all inclined to think that "successful = this this this" or "to be successful, you must this this this".

Besides those things, I'm sure there's gotta be more to life.

Life isn't something so simple that you can simple reduce the meaning of success to slogans and theories. No matter how many theories we come up with, or how many successful examples we have seen, life is so immensely diverse, complex and intricate that everyone's case is different. Not every single person in this generation can subscribe to the general definition of "successful" (not that there is one to begin with, perhaps better put "stereotypical"), or rather, no one can. So many people fail to acknowledge that dreams are specific and subjective, that each of us holds vastly differing morals, values, and perspectives. Successful in life can mean so many things around the globe - becoming famous, attain a high rank in work, to have loved and be loved, or simply just to survive.

Why, oh why are we so superficial, for most of the time?

Deferring for a while, this also reminded me of the fact that we always compare and contrast people. I guess this is unavoidable, and sometimes also of value, but much of the time we lose ourselves and forget our own identity. Being in a society does not mean that we need to lose all our individuality, huh? What does it mean to be successful as a person (character), part of it indefinitely comes from public definition, but I feel that the most important thing is it needs to be based on your own values. Not blindly following others, but living out your own Personal Legend. Ha! (So please do love yourselves and realize all your goodness) But I guess this is a rather superficial discussion as well, since values and morality and all is another deeper issue, but just as long as you get the gist (:

So making this decision = no guts? low chance to become more recognized and hence successful? I beg to differ. I do not deny that certain people are definitely more of a risk taker, but from another perspective you can simply say that they have no brains too, or is someone who does things rashly. Who are we to say that this decision is good or bad? No one has that position.

Only time can.

Life is full of coincidences, unforseen circumstances and luck. There is ultimately a degree as to what we can do as a person, but the rest is up to the unforseen forces (ha ha) to decide. No matter which path we take, be it conventional or not, here and there we will always encounter hardships, but as long as we come back to love and be loved, all is well. (:

and who is to say then, that we have failed in life?

we should judge our own lives in the end, not others(: